The Still Flame

One thing I’ve noticed in my own process is that some aspects of healing are linear, while others happen in more quantum steps… I think the biggest changes tend to happen this way. On the outside, it looks like nothing is changing, or like a person is running in circles, but at a certain point an old outdated structure detaches all at once. 

“My best is good enough”

If you feel stuck in cycles that seem to lack resolution, have faith in the idea that it even periods of time that seem “business as usual” will eventually be seen through to change. What matters is that your attitude is towards evolution and that you make a continued effort to make choices that support you, because this is what will be reflected. Spirit once handed me the mantra, loud and clear: “My best is good enough.” Healing is itself so much about lessening harshness, why would we hold ourselves to impossible standards? There are so many moving parts in the universal ecosystem that is reflected to us that are not up to us to govern mentally. When we shift in our attitudes and choices, those moving parts eventually catch up to us. 

I’ve noticed that as I continue to shift and ground, it tends to lead to a “boiling point” where certain relationships suddenly become obsolete. My sense is also that as I become more and more centered, the feeling of being throttled by these shifts will lessen, too. 

Sometimes we form a relationship with someone in a certain way of being, and we may walk each other to a certain threshold of growth. The greater the change that took place, the greater the feeling of “catapulting into the rest of me catching up with me” will feel. Changes in relationships are not failures, they are indicators of people changing and evolving and what they need from the form of that relationship evolving, too.

I go through periods of quiet, and then the punctuation happens. I shed like a snake. Suddenly I’m in completely new life circumstances, or my attitude towards certain life dynamics transforms.